Two a.m. and you’re still awake trying to understand your geometry proofs for tomorrow’s test. If only you could remember the steps of mitosis then maybe you would do a decent job on that next biology quiz.
We’ve all been there–consumed with the stress that comes from studying for tests. No matter how long or hard you stare at those note cards, everything you’ve learned this past unit can’t seem to find its way into your memory and you draw a blank.
That big, red F is tough to see especially after working so hard. I know the feeling, that moment where everyone around you is comparing scores and you slowly turn your paper over so nobody knows how bad yours was. It sucks. Hearing that word “FAILURE” lingering in your brain is the worst feeling ever.
Don’t let that word in! There’s a huge difference in failing a test, and being a failure. Failing means you tried hard and will learn from your mistakes. A failure is someone who does not try or care to make a change. Know the difference between them.
Your best is good enough. If you are failing something get help! There’s so much tutoring offered: A+ students in need of hours, tutoring after school, and TAP. There are many options to improve your grade so let someone know you need help.
“There are so many teachers who would be willing to go above and beyond for that one kid who’s gonna say ‘I need help!’ so I think a big part of it is advocating for yourself. Being able to speak up and seek help when you need it,” said Erin Driedger, school psychologist.
Don’t just wish you could understand. That won’t solve anything. Make the change yourself! Your grade define who you are, do your best and let that be good enough.
“I think involvement in the school in general like activities and other stuff helps; not just sports but clubs and committees to get that sense of belonging. That kind of helps students find themselves and define themselves because I think its more about how they perceive themselves than about even how a teacher defines them,” said Driedger.
Failing a test feels crummy. I get it, but you are so much more than your test grades! Yes, tests are important, studying is very important. I’m not saying don’t try. I’m saying try your absolute best and whatever it is, as long as you have done all you can possibly do, there is nothing to stress over. You are more than a grade.
